When my office is a mess, I feel out of control

Okay, I know I don’t have control over my life. No one does, really, but we humans like to think we do.

Lori Deschene writing in her blog 50 Things You Can Control Right Now comments that “According to Columbia Business School’s Professor Gita Johar, who studies consumer behavior, the greatest motivation for visiting a psychic is to feel a sense of control.”

LOL! I’m guilty of doing that. I still don’t pretend to have a handle on the future, but visits with my medium friend Dale have given me a sense that things will eventually work out for the best.

Back in the day when things weren’t going the best, I went to group therapy every week for eighteen months. It changed the way I look at life, and I’ve credited it for “saving my life” in many respects. Being the perfectionist only child that I am, I took notes about the things I was learning, and later I typed them up.

Here’s one note: I don’t have to give control of my life over to another. Maybe that’s why I stood up for myself. I’m talking divorce now. And maybe it’s why I took horseback riding lessons because I didn’t want to live my life through my daughter.

The family therapist at “group” taught us “if you believe external things will make you happy, then you must be in control of them.” That could be the subject of another whole blog. But I will use it to segue to the topic of the title of this one. My office is a mess. It’s cluttered, piled high with stuff. I have a new computer desk, and I need to set it up properly. Why?


Granted, once I straighten up my office, it won’t stay that way. But I’ll feel better about it and myself. I will feel in control again. I won’t have given my life over to junk and disorder!

That’s why I’m taking PTO (vacation) on Friday. I want to whip this office into shape. I want a sense of control.

Oh, before I go, I’ll leave you with another truth.

Man does not control his own fate. The women in his life do that for him. – Groucho Marx




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