Notes from group therapy: Having it all, Autonomy and Maturity

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Back in the day, I went to group therapy every week for eighteen months. It changed the way I looked at life, and I’ve credited it for “saving my life” in many respects. Being the perfectionist only child that I am, I took notes about the things I was learning, and later I typed them up.

I thought I’d share the notes with you in hopes that you too may discover something new.

Having it “all”
  • Everything is a trap. Making a choice means you don’t get it all.
  • We don’t appreciate or celebrate what we gain. There is both gain and loss in every situation. Nothing is “either” “or”—it’s both!
Autonomy
  • The more you are autonomous, the closer you get to other people.
  • We fear losing our identity.
  • We are born alone; we die alone. If we are lucky we find another “alone” person to share our “aloneness” with.
Maturity
  • Maturity is the ability to be “odd man out” in a triangle—to be comfortable with yourself.
  • If you are mature, you can distinguish between how you think and how you feel.
  • Adulthood = the ability to live with your own aloneness.

 

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