Back in the day, I went to group therapy every week for eighteen months. It changed the way I looked at life, and I’ve credited it for “saving my life” in many respects. Being the perfectionist only child that I am, I took notes about the things I was learning, and later I typed them up.
I thought I’d share the notes with you in hopes that you too may discover something new.
Having it “all”
- Everything is a trap. Making a choice means you don’t get it all.
- We don’t appreciate or celebrate what we gain. There is both gain and loss in every situation. Nothing is “either” “or”—it’s both!
- The more you are autonomous, the closer you get to other people.
- We fear losing our identity.
- We are born alone; we die alone. If we are lucky we find another “alone” person to share our “aloneness” with.
- Maturity is the ability to be “odd man out” in a triangle—to be comfortable with yourself.
- If you are mature, you can distinguish between how you think and how you feel.
- Adulthood = the ability to live with your own aloneness.